I ran across this picture by photographer, Jade Beall and fell in love with the power behind it. This mother, like many others has a slightly different body after becoming a mother.
What did you focus on in that statement?
It should have been the most important part…the fact that this women became a mother. Just like a Ferrari, becoming a mother is a luxury that a lot of women don’t get to have. When I say or hear the term, ‘mommy tummy’, I now think about it as a gift, just like my little girl.
Why do we as mothers hate our post baby bodies? Why do we look at it with disgust?
I have to admit, I was guilty of this. I was saddened when I saw my tummy with some stretch mark scars and not as tight as it once used to be. When I voiced my concern to my own mother, her answer was simple.
“Well, you had a baby”
This may have been the strongest statement I heard in a long time. A little while after she said that, I was rocking my little girl to sleep and a tear rolled down my cheek as I softly whispered, “Yes, I had a baby“.
After that realization, I started to look at my new body for what it says, not of how it looks.
It says that I accomplished something amazing.
It says that I am strong.
It says that I am a fighter.
In other words, those are not stretch mark scars, those are tiger stripes.
Still hating that body? Every time you look in the mirror and are disgusted with your “mommy tummy”, remind yourself that there are millions of women who wish everyday that their stomaches looked like that. Remind yourself that you were blessed with becoming a mother and that should outweigh the need to look ‘airbrushed’ while wearing a bikini. Let each stretch mark symbolize a woman who can’t have children or even lost a child.
So ladies, OWN IT! Wear it proudly! It is not a side effect, it’s Medal of freak’n Honor!