I unfortunately had to take my husband to the airport as he’s on route to Paris, France for some work training. I know what you’re thinking, you’re jealous too. He’s only going to be gone for three weeks, but it felt much longer as I watched him kiss his little girl goodbye, just a day before Father’s Day. This got me thinking about how amazing of a father he is and how things have changed over the years with every new generation of fathers.
For many fathers, two and more generations ago, there was no time for kids. Work was more difficult and consumed the men’s time, physical abilities and sometimes; soul. I’m talking about the days where the women did stay home and raised the children. As the years went on, some jobs became easier with the introduction of new technology, but the next generation learnt from their fathers and tradition carried on. It has taken a few years, but this tradition does not exist in nearly as many men as it once did. The increased amount of women in the workforce helped spark that change too.
As I’m writing this, a popular song comes to mind; Cat in the Cradle, by Harry Chapin.
To summarize, it’s about a dad who is too busy to spend time with his son. When the man finally retires, the son is grown, with a job, family, and responsibilities of his own. Sadly, he is now too busy for his father. It’s a normal cycle that many fall into.
Have you noticed how amazing grandfathers can be? That’s because they finally have the time to be fathers, just in a ‘grander’ way. Many of them feel that it’s now their time.
Now, back to my starting point…
As I watched my husband kiss our little girl goodbye this morning, I was sad that they were going to miss each other in the three weeks to come, but I was also happy. I was happy because they were going to miss each other. I was happy to be reminded of their bond and how Brandon is such an amazing father. We are blessed that my husband has a specific schedule that gives him the time that he needs with his little girl. When it comes to Brandon, and a lot of fathers out there, it doesn’t matter what schedule he has. His family comes first. He could be drained from work and exhausted, but he’s always on call to be the tickle monster any minute and make Piper smile. That’s all that matters.
I’m not going to lie, it’s nice to have help with the dirty diapers, late feedings and all the other joyous things that comes with a baby, but the most important thing are the memories that Brandon is making for our little girl; memories that a lot of people aren’t equipped with. Piper is blessed with three generations of men that will continue to provide our lucky little girl with as many memories as they can.
I will let Harry Chapin sing you off with Cat’s in the Cradle. After you listen to it, be sure to give your fathers and grandfathers a big hug because sometimes circumstances arose that made it difficult to be the best father possible, but they still did what they could and you’re a better person for it. If there are any dads reading this…give your children a giant squeeze if you can and have a wonderful Father’s Day.
To Brandon, Bryan, Frank, Joe and Metro; thanks for being you.