Stop Hating Your “Mommy Tummy”

_68706499__jtb4638-edit I ran across this picture by photographer, Jade Beall and fell in love with the power behind it.  This mother, like many others has a slightly different body after becoming a mother.

What did you focus on in that statement?

It should have been the most important part…the fact that this women became a mother.  Just like a Ferrari, becoming a mother is a luxury that a lot of women don’t get to have.  When I say or hear the term, ‘mommy tummy’, I now think about it as a gift, just like my little girl.

Why do we as mothers hate our post baby bodies?  Why do we look at it with disgust?

I have to admit, I was guilty of this.  I was saddened when I saw my tummy with some stretch mark scars and not as tight as it once used to be.  When I voiced my concern to my own mother, her answer was simple.

“Well, you had a baby”

This may have been the strongest statement I heard in a long time.  A little while after she said that, I was rocking my little girl to sleep and a tear rolled down my cheek as I softly whispered, “Yes, I had a baby“.

After that realization, I started to look at my new body for what it says, not of how it looks.

It says that I accomplished something amazing.

It says that I am strong.

It says that I am a fighter.

In other words, those are not stretch mark scars, those are  tiger stripes.

Still hating that body?  Every time you look in the mirror and are disgusted with your “mommy tummy”, remind yourself that there are millions of women who wish everyday that their stomaches looked like that.  Remind yourself that you were blessed with becoming a mother and that should outweigh the need to look ‘airbrushed’ while wearing a bikini.  Let each stretch mark symbolize a woman who can’t have children or even lost a child.

So ladies, OWN IT!  Wear it proudly! It is not a side effect, it’s Medal of freak’n Honor!

 

 

18 thoughts on “Stop Hating Your “Mommy Tummy”

  1. 262x2

    I absolutely LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this post! I’m not a mom (yet, nor will I be any time soon), but I know that when I am I will feel blessed to have that “mom belly.” So many people WOULD kill to have one. :-)

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    1. nickiebrook@live.com Post author

      Thank you! I hope I can inspire more with this post. Good luck to you, hopefully you get to experience motherhood soon :)

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  2. melodyspen

    A dear friend of mine has been a belly-dancer for years and after she had her daughter she stopped wearing her normal costumes and resorted to one that covered her belly. A fellow dancer approached her and said “You are a belly dancer and your belly now tells one of the most profound, oldest stories in the history of humankind, you should be proud to share that story with your audience.” My friend is now the mother of 3 amazing children and still a beautiful belly dancer whose no longer afraid to show her story to the world.

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    1. nickiebrook@live.com Post author

      That is such a great story! Thank you so much for sharing and adding some extra ‘punch’ to my message. Too many moms hide behind their clothes, scared of what others might think of their tummies. Your story now made me think of the stretch marks as little maps of your story :)

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  3. G. Moua

    Love this! I have been battling with loving my own postpartum body and this is going to help me come to terms with the battle scars I have from having had two babies.

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    1. nickiebrook@live.com Post author

      Thanks for your feedback :) I am glad it helped you! I love how you referred to them as battle scars! It might take a while to fully appreciate your new body, even though it helped create, I am sure two beautiful babies!

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    1. nickiebrook@live.com Post author

      You are very welcome! Sometimes we all need a reminder of what our body can do! Thanks for your comment :)

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  4. abigailmccormack

    So glad you followed me! :) This is a beautiful post. I thought being covered in stretch marks would be a bigger issue for me, but the fact that I have a healthy baby girl makes me proud to wear them.

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    1. nickiebrook@live.com Post author

      Thanks for your comment Abigail, you are very right. We can only hope that more moms feel the same way :) I am glad I followed you too!

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  5. Claudia

    When I was a little girl, my Mum’s tummy looked just like the one in this photo. I loved it, it fascinated me. So soft and textured and beautiful. Still one of the loveliest memories I have :-)

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    1. nickiebrook@live.com Post author

      That is an inspiring story Claudia, thank you so much for sharing :) It is very interesting to here what it was like from the ‘child’s perspective’

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